Self esteem, both high and low, is the exclusive preview
of the unconscious portion of your mind and generally speaking is first formed
in childhood. While it's true, no parent sets out to instil low self esteem in
their child, a child's ability to accurately perceive and understand the world
around them is limited and simplistic and, as a result, they can interpret
events that may seem insignificant to adults as an indication of their lack of
worth.
For example, a child bringing home a paper from
school that they are particularly proud of and having their parent ignore it or
dismiss it because they were having a bad day can trigger the thought that they
aren't good enough to matter to that parent. After all, the child has no way of
knowing their mom or dad was having a bad day... so they just feel the
rejection.
Once the unconscious mind gets the idea that “I'm
not good enough” or “I'm not worthy” or any number of other negative thoughts,
those thoughts become beliefs that then become a part of a person's
understanding of who they are in relation to the world around them.
Once a belief becomes a part of a person's map of
reality, the unconscious mind will begin to filter input they get and will reject
esteem building feedback while allowing in and embracing anything negative that
reinforces one's belief about them. We all know people who will dismiss a
compliment from a friend or co-worker offhand yet will accept and embrace even
the hint of criticism. In fact they are capable of misinterpreting neutral or
even positive feedback as being negative in order to have it fit their belief
of themselves. This process then becomes self fulfilling as they continue to
reject all positive feedback while accepting the negative and thereby
constantly reconfirming their belief about themselves.
Since this entire process takes place as the
unconscious level, Hypnosis
Michigan and neuro linguistic programming are quite effective at
breaking this cycle and helping you reprogram your unconscious mind in order to
let go of those old belief systems while replacing them with new beliefs that
celebrate your positive qualities and open you up to accepting the praise that
people have been giving you all along.
If you are tired of having low self esteem and are
ready to let go of those negative beliefs about yourself and you want to begin
enjoying your positive qualities instead, make an appointment today. While I
normally recommend 3-6 Hypnotherapy
Michigan sessions for most esteem issues, you'll be surprised and
delighted how much better you feel about yourself beginning with the very first
hypnotherapy session.
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