Whether
it's the quiet confidence of your doctor whose advice you willingly follow to the
self assured financial advisor you entrust your money to or the charismatic
confidence of a public speaker, we all admire self confident people.
Self-confidence
is an essential element in almost every aspect of our lives affecting
everything from our careers to our relationships yet many people struggle to
gain it. Sad too is the fact that low self confidence can be a vicious circle
as negative outcomes, the result of low self-confidence, tend to confirm a
person's low self-image thereby lowering self-confidence even further.
Self-confident
people, on the other hand inspire confidence in others be it their friends,
co-workers, employers or customers. This confidence increases the level
of success the self-confident person enjoys thereby increasing their
self-esteem and continuing the process.
If you
struggle with low self-confidence, there is good news. Low self-confidence is a
learned behaviour and so is self-confidence. The difference is, you didn't set
out to learn low self-confidence but you can learn to become more
self-confident and, like any other skill, you can practice it and elevate
it.
How Self Confident Are
You?
- Do
you do what you believe to be right, even with others may mock you or
critize you for it or do you change your position and behaviour based upon
what others think of you?
- Do
you take risks and view failure as an opportunity to learn and grow or do
you fear failure and stay in your comfort zone while enviously watching
others go for the brass ring?
- Do
you admit your mistakes and learn from them or do you attempt to cover up
your mistakes and hope it will pass or that you can fix it before anyone
notices?
- Are
you self satisfied with an accomplishment accepting congratulations from
others if it comes or do you fish for compliments relying upon others to
validate and raise your sense of worth?
- When
someone does compliment you, do you accept it graciously and fully or do
you tend to dismiss or diminish the compliment by suggesting it wasn't
that big a deal?
Low
self-confidence can be self-destructive and often leads to poorer results and
even trouble. Self-confident people on the other hand usually have a more
positive outlook and are generally a lot happier in life.
Eleanor
Roosevelt once said “No one can make you feel inferior without your
permission.” Likewise, relying on others to validate your ability or your worth
is sure sign of low self-confidence. So, how do you begin to build your
self-confidence?
The key
to building self-confidence is in changing the internal dialog you have about
yourself. People with low self-confidence have thoughts like “I'm not good
enough” or “I'm not smart enough” or “I always screw things up.” Negative
thoughts like these usually stem from childhood and have an enormous affect on
our self-confidence. So do beliefs like “If I fail at something, that will mean
I am a failure.” Just imagine how that belief will affect a persons
willingness to take risks.
One way
to change the inner dialog to a more positive one is to take stock of your
qualities, your talents and accomplishments, jot them down and remind yourself
of them every day. Remind yourself every day that the road to success if paved
with failures because failure is one of the best ways to improve your
knowledge, your skills and your sense of humor. Remember, unconscious negative
thoughts can be changed, in time to positive ones by conscious repetition of
positive input.
Another,
quicker way to effectively eliminate those negative thoughts, beliefs and
emotions that lie within your unconscious mind is through Hypnosis and
Neuron-Linguistic Programming. These powerful tools work directly on the parts
of the mind that store negativity and can help you let go of negative emotions
and thoughs that keep your self-confidence down quickly and effectively. As a
result, many people find Hypnosis Michigan and NLP are a great way to jump start their
journey to high self-confidence and a more successful and rewarding life.
Regardless
of how they get there, everyone deserves to feel proud of their special gifts
and talents in life and to live a positive and joyous life. You already possess
all the resources you need to realize your goals in life. If you want help
getting out of your own way and accessing those resources, schedule a session
today. You've got nothing to lose but your low self-confidence, your self-doubt
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